When was the last time you Offended someone?

[v8-powered]

Daily occurance apparently, according to me wife????

[demographic]

I would say there's a fairly good reason why I don't generally work on domestic and prefer building sites.

[Mussels]

Daily occurance apparently, according to me wife????

Same here, if I suggest they deserved it then it ends up as an argument and I've offended two people.

[Taipan]

Dunno. I don't set out to offend anyone. I was bought up under the guide of if you haven't got anything nice to say, then don't say anything. If I find people offensive I'll more than likely walk off than waste my time talking to someone like that. That said I'm not shy of a retort if the situation isn't avoidable and actually calls for one. I'm deffo with Al Capone on that one!

[Mr. Dazzle]

The trouble with "telling it like it is" is that there is very seldom one "it" in real life.

You're basically just saying "telling it like I think, but with no acceptance there might be another viewpoint".

[porter_jamie]

yesterday two fellas at work were driving a morgan (new three wheeler thing) and were wearing silly furry hats because it was cold.

i asked them if they got erections when they looked in the mirror
huh?
'cos you look like a pair of c@nts'

[Taipan]

And why are we proud of it? Does it make the world a better* place?


*I made a typo as I typed this, an 'i' instead of an 'e'. Freudian or what?

Actually an interesting question for me. In real life, I am extremely happy go lucky. Bit of a scatterbrain and hopelessly disorganised, virtually everything I say is made in good humour and even the darkest subject can be spun into a light hearted funny.

Somehow and I honestly do not know why, this does not translate into the written word. I think it must be to do with the careful choice of the correct wording and an attempt to keep my propositions logically precise.

The written word appears to have a mind of its own (probably the one in the listeners head) and may have a different "meaning" to them than the standard English dictionary version.

People seem to live to be offended. If they're not offended by something that can be misconstrued, then they'll get offended on someone else behalf!

[wheelnut]

Yeah of course...I'm a straight talking man, i am the problem for many in a conversation, if they are talking complete shit!

If you often find yourself among people that are talking shit then maybe you need to change your friends?

[Rockburner]

And why are we proud of it? Does it make the world a better* place?


*I made a typo as I typed this, an 'i' instead of an 'e'. Freudian or what?

Actually an interesting question for me. In real life, I am extremely happy go lucky. Bit of a scatterbrain and hopelessly disorganised, virtually everything I say is made in good humour and even the darkest subject can be spun into a light hearted funny.

Somehow and I honestly do not know why, this does not translate into the written word. I think it must be to do with the careful choice of the correct wording and an attempt to keep my propositions logically precise.

The written word appears to have a mind of its own (probably the one in the listeners head) and may have a different "meaning" to them than the standard English dictionary version.

Tone of voice, situational context and body language.

Those are all missing from forum communication. But they make up over half the "transmission of meaning" in a face to face discussion.

That's why you have to be very careful about wording etc online.

[Skub]

I don't honestly recall the last time I offended anyone,but I've been married for 42 years and have a very selective memory.

So I've been told.

[Taff]

When was the last time I offended someone?

Seemingly, every time I open my mouth or post something, so I sit in silence a lot and don't post much here or anywhere else. Nearly every time I log on here I write a reply and delete it before posting.

My wife used to call me a 'social retard'.

It's a real source of anxiety.

[Skub]

When was the last time I offended someone?

Seemingly, every time I open my mouth or post something, so I sit in silence a lot and don't post much here or anywhere else. Nearly every time I log on here I write a reply and delete it before posting.

My wife used to call me a 'social retard'.

It's a real source of anxiety.

I've not noticed that,however disagreeing with someone isn't the same as being offensive,not initially anyway.

[demographic]

Dunno. I don't set out to offend anyone. I was bought up under the guide of if you haven't got anything nice to say, then don't say anything. If I find people offensive I'll more than likely walk off than waste my time talking to someone like that. That said I'm not shy of a retort if the situation isn't avoidable and actually calls for one. I'm deffo with Al Capone on that one!

More or less that^.
It's not as if I make a point to offend people, and generally avoid it.
But I also wont walk on eggshells around someone who's being an arse.

If yer deliberately going out to offend people regularly theres a strong possibility that you need to get a life.

[Taff]

When was the last time I offended someone?

Seemingly, every time I open my mouth or post something, so I sit in silence a lot and don't post much here or anywhere else. Nearly every time I log on here I write a reply and delete it before posting.

My wife used to call me a 'social retard'.

It's a real source of anxiety.

I've not noticed that,however disagreeing with someone isn't the same as being offensive,not initially anyway.

I'm not sure how you would notice tbh, as I say, the vast majority of my drafted posts get deleted and I deliberately don't get involved with opinionated discussions

[Ant]

In some conversations, some people are happy to risk offending the person who they do not want to receive offence from. Sometimes that ought to be considered.

[Skub]

I'm not sure how you would notice tbh, as I say, the vast majority of my drafted posts get deleted and I deliberately don't get involved with opinionated discussions

My mode of operation too.

[Noggin]

Dunno. I don't set out to offend anyone. I was bought up under the guide of if you haven't got anything nice to say, then don't say anything. If I find people offensive I'll more than likely walk off than waste my time talking to someone like that. That said I'm not shy of a retort if the situation isn't avoidable and actually calls for one. I'm deffo with Al Capone on that one!

Like @demographic and Taipan, I tend to avoid a response rather than offend someone. In general, I rarely have conversations where I need to get to the point that I might offend someone!

I do however have the most horrific 'tone of voice' that I can't generally hear. It's my mother's you know I've worked really hard to lose most of the family traits, but that tone of voice can really sound awful, and be offensive to some. 100% NOT intentional, but I haven't worked out how to get rid of it

[Skub]

I do however have the most horrific 'tone of voice' that I can't generally hear. It's my mother's you know I've worked really hard to lose most of the family traits, but that tone of voice can really sound awful, and be offensive to some. 100% NOT intentional, but I haven't worked out how to get rid of it

Silence is golden,duct tape is silver.

[Demannu]

It all depends on how you offend someone.
If your opinion offends them, all wel, and good, opinions are like arseholes.
If, however, the truth offends them, buckle up snowflake, it's going to be a bumpy ride!
Anyone that knows me will tell you they hold their breath when I'm introduced to a new social group, as the older I have become, the fewer filters I use.

[Greenman]

And why are we proud of it? Does it make the world a better* place?


*I made a typo as I typed this, an 'i' instead of an 'e'. Freudian or what?

Actually an interesting question for me. In real life, I am extremely happy go lucky. Bit of a scatterbrain and hopelessly disorganised, virtually everything I say is made in good humour and even the darkest subject can be spun into a light hearted funny.

Somehow and I honestly do not know why, this does not translate into the written word. I think it must be to do with the careful choice of the correct wording and an attempt to keep my propositions logically precise.

The written word appears to have a mind of its own (probably the one in the listeners head) and may have a different "meaning" to them than the standard English dictionary version.

Tone of voice, situational context and body language.

Those are all missing from forum communication. But they make up over half the "transmission of meaning" in a face to face discussion.

That's why you have to be very careful about wording etc online.

Spot on.

It's a shame we all converse on here (internet) mainly instead of having close face to face conversations these days...

Tech is good in many ways but in reality and in relation to our social ways of life and mental health it's not been the best for the past 20 years right?

Wording however i think has to be able to be expressed freely to be able to get over those expressions electronically so can't be part of a 'banning' regime.